Welcome to Realistic HopeSurvivors, their families, caregivers and friends tell us that realistic hope provides a foundation for better quality of life. This site is intended to be a place to help all of us touched by brain injury to find that foundation. Read More
Five years ago ...I set out to understand the assumptions, habits and blind spots that are limiting the quality of life of brain injury survivors and their families. The process was to ask survivors and family members to share their stories of life with a brain injury, all in a consistent format. Read More
Share you did!Hundreds of their responses are on this site. Take the time to read a few. You will likely find each will provide some unique insight. The most noted insight is a consistent message: Have hope that is realistic; hope that your world can be better. Read More
What is Realistic Hope…“Realistic Hope: — based on dreams that are achievable—provides wonderful incentive for living. Those dreams make life an adventure. They offer a reason to start each day as if it were the beginning of the rest of your life. They infect dreamers with the passion to live for the enjoyment of today and give them a never-ending supply of options for starting over again tomorrow.” - Mark Palmer Read More
The Anatomy of Hope: How People Prevail in the Face of IllnessIn his book Jerome Groopman M.D. describes Realistic Hope as true hope. True hope, he says, "takes into account the real threats that exist and seeks to navigate the best path around them." Hope can flourish when you believe that your actions make a difference; that they can create "a future different from the present." To have hope is to "acquire a belief in your ability to have some control over your circumstances." Read More
" Wow! It has great value for TBI patients and other people in life-altering situations. I was honestly riveted to the pages wanting to read more and learn more and was truly encouraged by your words. "
" It's so clear that your words come from the heart, that you truly want to share your experiences in order to help others. You're so right that the insights you have apply not just to TBI survivors, but to anyone dealing with a life-changing injury, illness or event.
I'm moved and touched by your booklet -- so much so that I'm at a loss for words. (A first!) "
" The book is fantastic! I just read it again. What you say can apply to so many situations I think - not just health-related issues, but maybe any life-altering event., but I can see it applying it trying to return to "normal" after lots of situations . . "
" I read through the book you sent me and what an incredible journey you've gone through. I've known you for more than 20 years and I had no idea. You did a great job of putting this together. It shows your journey from a variety of angles and perspectives....which is quite rare. I don't believe I've ever seen this done before. "
" It reminded me of the difficultly people have when they try to change their behavior and well meaning family and friends (who should be their greatest support) are often the largest inhibitors to the change. Learning to live with the "new normal" seems to go against human behavior, whether it is an intentional change or one thrust on us by a set of circumstances out of our control. "
" As an outsider reading this I find it an extremely helpful guide for me to help a loved one and myself. Acceptance for what is and empathy for one's frustration rather than cheering on someone's frustrating inability to do what they are trying to accomplish is an eye opener and something that I would hope "
" Wow. After reading your book on TBI & wiping my eyes more than once, I want to thank you for sharing your work with me. Never have I read such an easy-to-access step by step manual for dealing with a traumatic event. "
" First, you are an excellent writer and express your ideas so beautifully But more importantly, your concepts and points resonate far beyond TBI and into many other aspects of life. I feel quite inspired, and I think you have written something truly amazing. "
" I have certainly struggled with an appropriate response after reading your Book. It is an amazingly frank discussion of the situation you have been dealing with for many years now. I applaud your honesty and your courage. I am sure it has helped others and will continue to as you figure out the appropriate method to spread the word. "
" Your tone is caring, humble, and supportive. You realize that each person is unique and that there is no recipe for recovery; that each person's goals are their own and that what is recovery or successful rehabilitation for one person is far from it for another. "
" I love the title because in my view it is only through the combination of facing the reality of the situation within the context of hope that positive rehabilitation outcomes are possible, no matter the level of complexity of the injury or illness. Without hope, no one is able to take the next step, push through the hard moments, survive the set-backs. But to get from here to there, we must know clearly what HERE is and what we would like THERE... "
" Realistic Hope. There’s a phrase I can really get behind! A lot of people say we have to stay positive in order to get better. People suggest we purge negative people from our lives so we can focus on healing, wellness, forward progress. Hmm. "